imnotcancersfriend's Cancer Blog
April 26, 2010
What is a best friend? It’s the perosn you can walk up to say one word and both of you burst out laughing. Someone that you can walk up to say one word and you both start crying. Someone you can call just to see what’s up and realize you’ve been on the phone for 4 hours talking. A best friend is the person you tell anything to and know that no matter what you will not be judged. The person that you hold the highest respect for and find comfort and confidence in their advice and wisdom. You trust your life, even your children’s lives within this person’s care. They become a part of your life as if blood family, most times you are closer to them than your own siblings…Everyone in this world needs a best friend, whether they are life long or new they are important. It’s important to have that one person you know beyond a shadow of a doubt will be there for you through thick and thin, please encourage your children to find a special friend and hold on to them through life, I promise they will be a better person for having the friendship. I know that having had T as my best fiend for the past 24 years made an impact on my life. T passed away yesterday afternoon peacefully at her home in Broken Arrow, OK, for 3 years she fought a very rare cancer that started in her smaller intestines and spread to her entire uterus before they caught it. I found so much strength in my very soul everyday as I watched her fight her battle. While this world has lost a beautiful and wonderful woman in turn we have gained the most heavenly of angels and I’m thankful to my Lord in heaven for giving her peace and rest.
God's most beautiful soul is now his angel...., 
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You’re very lucky to have had each other. Unfortunately relationships that solid are hard to come by. I’m very sorry for your loss.
Posted on i am so sorry for the loss of your friend. it is hard to imagine how much grief you must feel right now. but please take comfort in the fact that t is no longer suffering and that she will always been around and with you. you had 24 wonderful years with her in your life…what a great gift that was to you both. i will pray for you and for her soul as well. God bless you both. debby
Posted on I am sorry for your loss. I am sure your presence and support were great comforts to T. I will keep you both in my prayers.
Ruth
Posted on Somehow I missed this post. I hadn’t heard from you for awhile and was worried, so I looked you up. I am so very very sorry about your friend. You were very good to her and for her. I’m glad she’s with the angels, but I’m so sad for you. I will pray that you find comfort in God’s loving arms. I will miss hearing from you because you were so wise in many ways. Keep us posted if you feel up to it. This is still a good place to come and share your grief and your memories. You’ve made us feel as though we knew your friend through your experiences with her. God bless, Gail
April 24, 2010
So T’s husband just called and the hospice nurse informed him today that T has just a few days left before her body gives out and she passes. I am in TX and I can’t decide what to do. My son has TAKS tests at the end of the week and he needs me here, I knew leaving last week that it was probably my last time to see T, but now it’s too real to know that’s it that’s all I get. I could easily hop in the truck and be by her side by morning but I would have to turn right around and come home the next day plus I would have to take my 5 year old with me. I’m conflicted…I just don’t know what to do….........
I’ve never felt so lost in my life…............
What a terrible position to be in. I wish I had some good advice to give you. The best I can say is to suggest that you stop trying to lead your decision with your head and try to listen to your spirit and your heart. If you get your mind out of the business of being the boss, your spirit will tell you the right thing to do. Neither decision will be perfect, but the one you choose will be the right one. I’m praying for you, T, her husband, and their families. Take care of yourself.
Peace,
Kathy
Posted on Peace will be with you. I have been around a few deaths with hospice and yes they can just about give you the exact time. But…they are not GOD, it will happen when it happens. My prayers are with you as I know the right thing will happen for you Peace, Sharron
Posted on Her passing is going to crush you to the core, with you being there or not. She has been a huge part of your life for years and you are going to have a big hole in your heart. So,are you already feeling the loss of her, or do you really want to tell her one last goodbye, or do you want to be by her side when she dies? Those are all different things that only you can figure out. When all else fails, just pray for guidance and discernment and wisdom. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless, Gail
My heart goes out to you in your almost impossible decision, whatever you decide, will be the right decision.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and T at this most stressfull time.
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Thanks for your support - 
